Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse.
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- Making and/or caring out threats to do something to hurt her/him.
- Threatening to leave her/him to commit suicide.
- To report her/him to welfare
- Making her/him drop charges.
- Making her/him do illegal things.
- Making her/him afraid by using looks, actions, gestures.
- Smashing things.
- Destroying her/him property
- Abusing pets.
- Displaying weapons.
- Putting her/him down
- Making her/himself bad feel bad about themselves.
- Calling her/him names
- Making her/him think they are crazy.
- Playing mind games.
- Humiliating her/him.
- Making her/him feel guilty.
- Controlling what she/he does, who she/he sees and talks to, what she/he reads, where she/he goes.
- Limiting her/his outside involvement.
- Using jealousy to justify actions.
- Making light of the abuse and not talking her/his concerns about it seriously.
- Saying the abuse didn't happen.
- Shifting responsibility for abuse behavior.
- Saying she/he caused it.
- Making her/him feel guilty about the children.
- Using the children to relay messages.
- Using visitation to harass her/him.
- Threatening to take the children away.
- Treating her/him like a servant
- Making all the big decisions.
- Acting like the "master of the castle".
- Being the one to define men's and women's roles.
- Preventing her/him from getting or keeping a job.
- Making her/him ask for money.
- Giving her/him an allowance.
- Taking her/his money.
- Not letting her/him know about or have access to family income.